I’ve not been well since my last post. I plummeted into the depths of depression on Tuesday, almost within hours, to one of the lowest points I have ever been. It was scary as well as incapacitating. I’ve never had depression arrive so deeply with such swiftness. Surprisingly it left pretty quick too – the next day I was a walking case of aches and pains, along with intense fatigue, and today I’ve started to come good.
I did what I have learnt is the wise thing to do when I am very, very depressed and my body isn’t feeling right, I took myself off to my awesome doctor. Turns out I have a flu/virus and she believes depression is a symptom of viral infections. I spent a lifetime in a quest for a decent doctor, and when I found the wonderful Doc Jo, I really hit the jackpot.
I’m not sure she quite realises it, but these days she is a Health at Every Size practitioner. We went through our years of diets and stuff, but there came a point where I said “Enough!” and to her credit, she has supported me on that. She never comments on my weight (except to mention how she worries a specialist might be prejudiced against me) and looks to my health in all aspects that give her real information. So long as my bloodwork etc comes back good, she’s happy. She always says “You know when you’re not right, don’t you sweetness?”
But I know how hard it is to find a decent doctor. One that doesn’t judge you because of your weight, one who treats you without prejudice, one who treats you with respect. I was 32 when I finally found Doc Jo.
I’ve had doctors turn me away as soon as they looked at me because I was fat. I’ve had doctors prescribe diet and exercise for asthma. I’ve had doctors tell me I was lying, that I was cheating, that I wasn’t taking my health seriously. I’ve even had a doctor tell me at 19 years of age when I presented to him with chronic menstrual bleeding (heavy flow for 18 months solid) to “Go lose some weight, find yourself a fella and we’ll talk when you’re ready for babies.”
I wish I was joking.
Thing is, we pay these doctors to care for us. To treat us. Even if you’re using full health insurance or Medicare, YOU pay for that in your taxes and deductions. You are employing your doctor. So if they don’t treat you with dignity, respect and like a human being, withdraw your custom from them. Just like any other business, stop being their customer. Take your business elsewhere!
If you were in a shop or other business, and looking to buy something, and the salesperson was disrespectful, would you purchase from them anyway?
Yes, it’s hard to get past that thing where your self esteem takes a battering and you just go with the doctor anyway. Or walk out and avoid going to ANY doctor. But you deserve and need decent health care. I found my Doc Jo through a recommendation from a friend. Ask your friends who their doctor is. Google doctors by their names. I have googled Doc Jo and get glowing mentions about her (some of them now are mine).
There are fabulous doctors out there. You don’t have to put up with the shitty ones. If you’ve got a good one, give a holla in the comments hey?