I just have to share this. I was just reading a bunch of posts and links that I’d saved for later, and found this piece on thin privilege. It’s a list of things that people who are not fat experience every day, and many take for granted:
Everyday as an average sized person …
I can be sure that people aren’t embarrassed to be seen with me because of the size of my body.
If I pick up a magazine or watch T.V. I will see bodies that look like mine that aren’t being lampooned, desexualized, or used to signify laziness, ignorance, or lack of self-control.
When I talk about the size of my body I can be certain that few other people will hope they are never the same size.
I do not have to be afraid that when I talk to my friends or family they will mention the size of my body in a critical manner, or suggest unsolicited diet products and exercise programs.
I will not be accused of being emotionally troubled or in psychological denial because of the size of my body.
I can go home from meetings, classes, and conversations and not feel excluded, fearful, attacked, isolated, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, stereotyped, or feared because of the size of my body.
I never have to speak for size acceptance as a movement. My thoughts about my body can be my own with no need for political alliance relative to size.
I can be sure that when I go to a class, or movie, or restaurant that I will find a place to sit in which I am relatively comfortable.
I don’t have to worry that if I am talking about feeling of sexual attraction people are repelled or disgusted by the size of my body. People can imagine me in sexual circumstances.
People won’t ask me why I don’t change the size of my body.
My masculinity or femininity will not be challenged because of the size of my body.
I can be sure that if I need medical or legal help my size will not work against me.
I am not identified by the size of my body.
I can walk in public with my significant other and not have people double take or stare.
I can go for months without thinking about or being spoken to about the size of my body.
I am not grouped because of the size of my body.
I will never have to sit quietly and listen while other people talk about the ways in which they avoid being my size.
I don’t have to worry that won’t be hired for a job that I can do because of the size of my body.
It really resonated with me because every single one of those list items are things that I’ve never experienced. As a woman who is deathfat (yeah, morbidly obese by the redundant BMI scale), every single one of those items on the list above would be an absolute luxury for me, and a totally new experience.
When those who are not fat say they don’t understand what we Fat Acceptance activists are “going on about” and suggest that we should just “move on”, they’re ignoring the fact that we cannot ignore our fatness and move on, because every day we’re reminded by the behaviour of others towards us. We don’t imagine this, this is our reality. Those with thin privilege need to accept that this is the reality that fat people have, and acknowledge it.
Until all bodies can experience the above items, whether they are fat, thin or somewhere inbetween, I can’t just move on. I have to keep doing what I do.