I want to make something very clear to everyone who reads this blog.
To those of you who get it, and read because you wish to share experiences, or discuss living in a fat body.
To those of you who are popping in to read because you’re tired of hating yourself for not being thin, who are looking for an alternative to the cycle of pointless diets and exercise punishment.
To those of you who are trolling here to congratulate yourself on being superior to fat people, simply because you are thin.
To those of you who know me in real life, and are looking to use this blog as a passive-aggressive way to hassle me. (You know who you are.)
And to those who are just curious about the obnoxious fat woman who pops up on a Facebook post and tells others that their behaviour is unacceptable.
To all of you, here are some really important points to remember.
- Your body, is no-ones business but your own.
- Whether you are thin, fat or somewhere in between, your weight, and how you live with your weight, is not open for public discussion, criticism, judgement or debate. Even if you are the fattest person in the world.
- Nobody has the right to comment, judge, police, or question another person’s weight/body/health.
- Your health, or the health of anyone else, is not a public concern. It is not a matter to be “discussed” in public forum.
- You can not “share your opinion” about someone’s health.
- You do not have to prove your health to anyone. Nor do they have to prove their health to you.
- You choose how you refer to your body, and how others should refer to it. If you wish to call yourself fat, and do not wish others to use euphemisms or medicalised terms, then that is your right. It is your choice, and anyone who does not respect your choice is policing your body, which they have no right to do.
- You cannot judge someone’s health by looking at them.
- You cannot tell someone whether or not they are healthy by your standards.
- You are under no obligation to be healthy.
But most importantly:
- When it comes to other people’s bodies and health, MIND YOUR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS.
I also want to highlight this excellent post by Silentbeep, in which she talks about even if “stereotypes around fat people being lazy, eating constantly, and how we all apparently won’t “put down the fork” or “put down the sandwich” or whatever.” that does not give anyone license to hate them, show bigotry towards them, or demonise them as some kind of morally reprehensible creature.
Now, I hope that is clear. It’s a simple concept really, but so many people fail to grasp it.