Living Large

Published May 12, 2012 by Fat Heffalump

Well you can take the fatty out of the blog but you can’t take the blog out of the fatty!  I still don’t have full internet access, waiting on it to be connected by my Telco, but I can’t stay away.  I’ve got stuff burbling around in my head and I need to share it!

As you probably know, I moved house a week ago.  I’ve moved to a lovely seaside suburb, mere metres from the bay.  Every morning when I wake up, the first sounds I hear are seagulls and other water birds.  At night, other than the occasional passing car, all I hear are the sounds of ocean breezes and lapping water, punctuated occasionally by the chime of the town clock.  It is so peaceful here, and so beautiful.  It was a hard wrench to move from the place that had been my home for almost 15 years (in fact, I only did it because I had to), but now that it’s done, I am so glad I have.

I mean, look at this place:

This is the first time I’ve had a major lifestyle change that I haven’t attached the goal of losing weight to.  In the past, every time I had a major life change, I would convince myself that this time, it would be the thing I needed to help me get thin.  That new job with the higher pay, meant that I could afford more weight loss programmes and gyms.  Moving away from the country meant that I would have access to more options to help me lose weight, and I could find more diet foods in the supermarkets.  Every time I changed my life somehow, I would desperately cling to the notion that it would be the change that would make me thin.

Of course, I know now, that it just doesn’t work that way.  My body is a fat body, and no matter what I do to it in an attempt to lose weight, there is a 95% chance that it will fail to actually make me thin.  I would say a 100% chance for me – after all, I’ve spent over 25 years trying to make my body thin – and no matter how extreme or whatever I did, nothing made me thin.  This is my body, and it is a fat body.  I am very comfortable in my body, more comfortable than I have ever been in my life.

But it’s funny, but after a week, I can already feel changes in my body.  For the first few days I think my body was desperately trying to shake off all the negativity, and toxicity, that I was carrying around before.  A few lungfuls of clean ocean air and my body seemed to go “Right, let’s shake all this shit out.”  My skin broke out in patches, and got terribly dry in other patches.  I seemed to produce copious quantities of snot and ear-wax.  My fingernails got all brittle.  And I was SO DAMN TIRED.  Some of that can be attributed to the exhaustion and stress of moving, but I really do feel like I was getting something out of my system.

A few days ago, I came good.  My energy levels came back.  My skin is starting to settle down.  I’m sleeping really well at night, but am not feeling tired during the day.  I’m off work at the moment so I am getting a lot of rest, but I think it’s about more than just time off work.  I think I’ve cast off the stresses of living in my old place, plus the new place doesn’t have carpets that I believe hold a lot of dust and stuff either.  Not to mention that I’m getting those lungfuls of fresh sea air.

There are other changes afoot too.  When I go back to work on Monday, I have a slightly longer trip, and now on a train instead of the bus.  That will give me 40 minutes each way that I can sit and read (I can’t read on the bus, it makes me pukey), which I think will be really significant on the trip home each day, in helping me let go of work for the day.  I have access to a really large supermarket which has much more choice than my old options, and is very close by.  Not to mention a lot of other small shops that I had no access to before.  Besides, groceries are significantly cheaper up here than they are closer to the city.  Don’t let anyone tell you that the big supermarkets don’t vary their prices by neighbourhood!  But most of all, I have daily access to this:

A beautiful foreshore where people walk, cycle, rollerskate, scoot, get dragged along by their dogs!  I have a beautiful bicycle – you’ve all seen my bicycle Iris haven’t you?  Here is an old photo of us together:

I now can go for a ride in my favourite place, every single day, without having to worry about being mowed down by traffic (I was always terrified to ride in most areas around my old place).  Not only is it my favourite way to move my body, but it’s also incredibly relaxing.  I always sleep so well after a bike ride.

But most of all, I feel relaxed an happy here.  My anxiety and depression is feeling lessened already.  It’s amazing what being somewhere you love and letting go of stress can do.

So you can see, I have a lot of changes in my life lately, and those changes are going to play out on my body and my health.  I hope the choice I have made to move here will mean they are positive changes, that I will feel more relaxed and stronger.  I hope that the exhaustion I suffered regularly before will be a thing of the past, now that I’m not living in such a stressful environment, am able to relax and put my head away from work, and can get out into fresh air, moving my body in a way that I enjoy, in a place that I love.

But for the first time in my life, I’m not pinning my hopes on these things making me thin.  Because to me, while being thin has cultural privileges, I now know that it is not a worthy goal to work towards.

And that is an incredibly liberating feeling.

25 comments on “Living Large

  • Sounds positively idyllic, Kath! The view is gorgeous, and yay! for such a pretty, safe place to go biking.

    I can’t wait for you to get full internet access again. I’ve missed your posts tremendously.

  • What an inspiring post! My mum lives by the coast & I really miss it! I always sleep well after sea air. It sounds idyllic & a train journey home every evening -providing you will get a seat? – is a brilliant way to unwind! My husband has been catching a train instead of driving to work this past week and he’s been 100x more relaxed when he’s come in. Nice to have you back to blogging!

  • I am SO damn happy for you. You so deserve this semi sea change and I am living vicariously through you. I might have to make sure if (when) we move I am near one of the big reserves/national parks so I can go for wanders…

  • I am glad to hear that your sea change is proving to be one of those fantastic ideas. I really understand what your saying about shedding the shackles of negativity and gaining a clearer, environment in which to live. I raise my glass to even better times ahead my dear.

  • I’m so pleased it’s been such a positive move (apart from the initial physical maladies). I’m very envious of your new home!

  • I agree, commuting by train is like a gift of hours added in to your day. I’m so glad that this move has been so positive for you – I want some of what you’re having!

  • While I do not live by the coast, I get these very strong urges from time to time to GO TO THE OCEAN. That means I usually drive 3 hours to the upper California area of Arcata or Crescent City. But it is worth it. The sounds, the air and the critters are so “life affiriming”…

    Congratulations on your move. May you and the bike have many, many pleasant hours together with the sun on your back. But remember to slip, slop, slap on the sunscreen.

  • Once by the sea, it is hard to live anywhere else I think. I love living on Australia’s coast!

    OK if it is dark outside – read, but if not, take the time to be looking outside at as much nature as you can! Congrats on the mucus throw, its good for you!

    @A BRADY – brrrr Have you tried staying at Howard Creek Ranch B&B, north of Fort Bragg. A very relaxing, not too expensive, place that has access to a beach to die for (Northern California type).

  • I am so happy for you! This just sounds lovely, and having the beach close by will be a gift on many days to come. By the way, if I hadn’t already told you – the picture of you on a bike had inspired me to get biking again. I now ride to work many days a week and life is definitely better for it. I hope you and your bike have marvelous rides along the sea 🙂

  • Woo-Hoo!
    I can just feel the happy coming through the internets. It’s great that you’ve been able to make such a great change. And you earned it.

  • It sounds like the new place is great for you! I’m sorry you got pushed out of the old one, but it seems to have worked out for the best. Enjoy the sea air and your new-found relaxation!

  • “My skin broke out in patches, and got terribly dry in other patches. I seemed to produce copious quantities of snot and ear-wax. My fingernails got all brittle. And I was SO DAMN TIRED.”

    yikes! that’s terrible! So sorry you went through that but i’m glad you’re feeling better. Not everyone gets it that bad, but moving from one type of area to another can often do that as your body adjusts to your new environment. salty sea air makes a lot of people break out or get stuffed up. At least you got through it fairly quickly! And your new home looks absolutely beautiful! ^___^

  • This has nothing to do with the article, but nevermind.

    I need to thank both you and notblueatall for the support and inspiration you’ve both given me over the past 18 months. In turn I’ve been much more critical of my own attitude towards my own and other’s bodies, a vocal supporter of the right to be fat (and challenging those who talk disparagingly towards other’s bodies) and much, much happier in my own skin.

    Dispite being a normal/straight size, I’ve always felt like an outsider because of my weight, and it’s stopped me doing things like swimming, exercising, buying clothes or feeling like I had a right to be happy.

    You guys have given me a huge amount of strength, and hopefully I can take even a tiny bit to someone else who is suffering because of the toxicity of our culture towards women.

    Thank you for everything,

    • Christine T, you are most welcome. I do want to just acknowledge though that the reality for a fat person, especially super fatties like myself, is quite different for a normal/straight size person. You have not been TREATED as an outsider, people like me ARE. That does not diminish your feelings, but to let that go unacknowledged would certainly diminish the realities of fat people like myself and others.

  • Hey there. I’ve popped on over for the first time from Dances with Fat. Nice blog! I’m so jealous that you’re living on the ocean now! Where do you live?
    I want a bike! I’ve wanted a bike for over a year, but haven’t really wanted to dish out the money, and I definitely won’t for the next year or so. I’m moving too! My husband and I are moving to Montana from Nevada in a few weeks so that’ll be a change for us. The ocean sounds more relaxing though! But I *am* looking forward to the close proximity to eagles and bears and bison.
    BTW, I just adore your profile picture. It’s so cute!

  • How fabulous Kath! Your beach is beautiful. It’s great that you have a place to bike that’s safe. I haven’t bought a bike because I’m too worried about all the traffic in my New Jersey suburb. I used to ride all the time as a kid, but now I figured out how dangerous it is. 🙂

    I’m glad to hear you’re feeling less stressed too. That’s wonderful.

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