I’ve got up this morning to an absolute storm of attention. My inbox is going off quicker than I can keep up with the mail. All because of this article by Jasmin Lill on news.com.au:
I’m really impressed by Jasmin’s piece, and was really blown away by how well she had considered things from my point of view when she interviewed me.
Quite predictably, the article has drawn me both good and bad attention. I’m really happy to see that some new faces are popping up here and on my FB page, and to those who have already reached out to me, I will get back to responding to you all over the weekend.
However, of course, being a fat woman who DARES to expect that she be treated with a basic modicum of decency, and speaks out publicly about the bullying she has received, I am now getting some really pissed off people targeting me again. I broke the rules, I spoke about the reality of being fat and how much hate it draws you.
I’m not even going to dignify the full on hate messages – instead I’m going to be handing them, their IP addresses and other identifying details over to the various journalists who have contacted me this morning.
But there are also those who are less blatant making excuses and blaming me for the hatred I receive (as if I’m the only fat woman who is bullied online and in public).
So here are a few little points to note.
- Nobody deserves to be threatened, told to kill themselves or harassed. Not even if you think they are rude, or swear, or are opinionated or argumentative. Or fat/ugly.
- My telling someone to “fuck off” on my own blog is not “giving as good as she gets” as someone threatening to kill or rape me, or stalking me, harassing me at work or using my identity fraudulently. Even if you think I’m rude or foul mouthed – I still don’t deserve death/rape threats and harassment. They are not equivalents.
- If you’ve come here to lecture me to “be polite” to people who disagree with me, you’re wasting your breath. This is my space, the rules are clear and I get to be whoever I need to be in my own online space. I promise I won’t come to your space and be impolite, lecture you or threaten you. I’m too busy to waste my time harassing other people in their corners of the internet.
- If you don’t understand a concept on this blog, don’t argue about it, go Google it and educate yourself. Much smarter people than me have already spoken about every single concept I talk about here many times before, I’m not making this stuff up myself. I’m just spreading the wisdom.
I hope this clarifies things, and saves me answering the same questions over and over and over for people who comment about any of the four things above.
Otherwise, welcome, I love to get to know new people and I promise, it’s not always easy but if you stick around you’ll feel a WHOLE lot better about yourself as time progresses.